30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 19

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Admire His Body



Read a wife’s description of her beloved in Song of Solomon 5:10-16

Criticism leaves scars, but encouragement can bring healing. Remember that today as you focus on your 30-day encouragement challenge.

Almost nothing is as devastating to a man as the belief that his wife finds him repulsive. Sadly, many women unwisely criticize their husband’s bodies.

Have you ever considered how wonderfully God designed men and women? No matter how a man looks-by the standards of the world-a loving God designed them all, and they are all beautiful in His sight. Encourage your husband today by praising his uniqueness.

As you look over your husband’s body, from the tip of his toes to his bald or bush head, thank God that your husband is “wonderfully man,” then admire your husband verbally. (Strong arms? Hairy chest? Firm hands? Big feet? Rugged chin? Wide shoulders? Compassionate eyes? Broad smile?)

My beloved is radiant and ruddy, distinguished                                                                    among ten thousand. –Song of Solomon 5:10

Journaling Thought

Describe the physical characteristics you admire in your husband. Be sure to tell him today what those things are.

 

Huge thanks to Revive Our Hearts for creating this challenge. Be sure to check out their website for other great challenges.

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30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 18

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Promote Playfulness



You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy… Blessed are the people whose God is the Lord! –Psalm 16:11; 144:15

It’s hard to criticize others when we are enjoying their company. Instead of speaking negatively to your husband today, enjoy him! Encourage him! As you experience fullness of joy with God, share some of that joy with your husband.

A joyful heart is good medicine. -Proverbs 17:22

Does your husband have a playful side? A great sense of humor? Is there a “little boy” who wants to escape from time to time, reflecting the joy in his heart?

This is a wonderful part of who he is and a great strength. Let him know that you appreciate his joyfulness and his playful spirit. Find opportunities to join him in positive playtime.

If your husband can sometimes be overly serious, coax him out occasionally for some playtimes. It will help him relieve stress and relax.

I am not naturally a gift giver; however, gift giving is one of my husband’s first love languages. On the way home… I felt like the Lord gave me a thought to go in and get my husband his favorite drink. Immediately, I was delighted by the idea of surprising him with this small gift.” -Kristy

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30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 16

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30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 17

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Value his Family Vision



She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of                                                     kindness is on her tongue.- Proverbs 31:26

Are you a wise woman? Do you open your mouth with wisdom, as Proverbs 31:26 suggests ? As you continue in this 30-day challenge, remember that a wise woman encourages her husband.

Is your husband a wise man? Doe she have a godly perspective that comes from knowing God and walking with Him in obedience? Does he have a sense of purpose for his life and vision of your home? Tell him how much this means to you.

If you are not sure about your husband’s vision for your home, ask him, “Honey, what do you want to accomplish with our marriage and home in the years to come?” and “How can I help accomplish that?” If he does not have a vision, your questions may inspire him to develop one.

If your husband is not walking with God-or perhaps, does not know the Lord-you have the opportunity and responsibility to practice your faith and create a thirst for God. Thank God for giving your husband a place in his heart that only He can fill, and keep praying that he will turn to the Lord to fill that vacuum!

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the                          Holy One is insight. -Proverbs 9:10

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30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 16

30 Encouragement Challenge: Day 15

30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 16

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Be A Conduit of Communication



Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” – Genesis 2:18

Communicating is so important in any type of relationship. Could you image going to work and not knowing what you’re supposed to do because your boss did not communicate with you? Don’t push your husband to hard to communicate, but when he does, listen to hear and not to respond. Ask your husband if he thinks your relationship has good communication. He may think that he is communicating with you! Really.

God says that it is not good for man to be alone-but the way some women criticize their mates, the husbands may long for solitude. Be careful today not to criticize your mate, but look instead for ways to encourage him personally and publicly.

Speaking of communication, does your husband communicate with you? God has made you a companion and helper for your husband, and part of being “one flesh” with him is the privilege of sharing and discussing personal needs and concerns. Thank God for that wonderful gift. Thank your husband for communicating with you.

If your spouse does not communicate as you wish, look for ways that he communicates that are normal for him: smiling at you, nodding his head-even a pleasant grunt- and then thank him for letting you know that he cares. Perhaps he needs to be lovingly taught how to communicate. Be patient with him… and listen when he does speak.

“My husband-the hard-hearted, closed-off, non-communicative husband-broke down, opened up, listened instead barking orders, and sat on the couch with me last night. He said, “‘This is the best week I’ve ever had! To just be here holding my wife my arms is the best way to end a day!'” -Stephanie 

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30 Encouragement Challenge: Day 15

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30 Encouragement Challenge: Day 15

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Recognize Spiritual Growth



Grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior                                                      Jesus Christ. –2 Peter 3:18

Sometimes we live so close to our spouse that we fail to see him as others do; we only see our husband’s faults. But take a step back. Perhaps he is growing spiritually in ways you have failed to appreciate. How can you encourage his growth in a fresh, new way? Remember, your husband is accountable to God for his spiritual development. You are accountable to God to encourage and not hinder that growth.

Can you identify an area of spiritual stength in your husband? Does he pray or read his bible regularly? Does he like to read about or discuss spiritual matters?Does he go to church with you? I he a spiritual leader? What do others say about him? If you can identify a specific area, praise him for that.

If not, pray earnestly that God will work in his heart, and watch for signs of spiritual growth in the future.

“Well, I’m the one who was surprised, because it was like everything I was supposed to be doing in this challenge, my husband was doing and excelling at it better than me! I can’t be encouraging in my own strength, and I need Him to daily help me to love my wonderful hubby as he truly deserves.” -Mercy

30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 14

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Praise Integrity



The righteous who walks in his integrity-blessed                                                                         are his children after him!  -Proverbs 20:7

Every week there are news reports about men who gave in to temptations and compromised what they said they believed. We hear countless reports about dishonest business dealings, hidden infidelity, and hypocritical leaders. It’s so easy to focus on these things and ignore those who are being honest, faithful, and genuine. As you continue in the 30-Day-Encouragement Challenge, determine to look for ways that your husband stands against the culture.

Is your spouse a man of integrity? Is he fair in his dealings with people? Does he understand the meaning of justice? Is he honest in business? Un-hypocritical in his faith? Consider all the ways a man can live in integrity, and praise your husband for one of them.

As you have the opportunity-as it is appropriate-share examples of your husband’s honesty and integrity with others.

I therefore… urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. -Ephesians 4:1-3

Special thanks to Revive Our Hearts for creating this wonderful challenge! Be sure to check out their other great challenges!

30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 13

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30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 13

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Be an Instrument of Intimacy



I am my beloved’s, and his desire is for me. –Song of Solomon 7:10

The sexual relationship. It’s one of those elements-along with money and children-that can derail a marriage through negative comments. Negativity destroys intimacy, but encouragement builds and strengthens the marriage bond.

Let’s get practical here. Is your husband a good lover? Have you told him so? Be specific. Let him know when he pleases you. Most husbands genuinely want to please their wives, especially in this important area of marriage.

In moments of intimacy, do you find you mind wandering? This can change as you focus on something wonderful about your husband. Realize that your husband wants intimacy  with you… his desire is toward you.

Does this area of your marriage need some work? Remember that this is a sensitive area for men. Be sure to encourage his lovemaking and masculinity in positive ways.

“I was in disbelief about this challenge, but I did it anyway. My willingness and God’s perfect will brought back the wonderful love and romance He intends for every marriage. Thanks!” -Valerie