30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 24


Praise His Paternal Leadership

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. –Ephesians 6:4

Children can be quite a challenge to the marriage relationship. A wise wife will support her husband’s leadership in the home as much as possible and will praise him for his fathering skills. Negativity makes a man feel like a failure and may make him want to give up.

Does your husband discipline your children wisely? Does he show them love and encourage them? Does he take an interest in their activities and dreams? Does he spend time with them? Does he take part in developing their character? Praise him for these important life skills.

If you don’t have children, is your husband positive and encouraging around other people’s children? Let him know that you have noticed.

If your husband does not experience positive relationships with children, you will need to figure out why. Perhaps he had negative experiences as a child with his own parents and needs to learn how to respond. Perhaps you can lovingly and patiently show him how to parent-while still maintaining his authority in the home.

“My husband used to have so much stress from work and being a father of eight that he would take it out on us. As I learned something new each day to say or do for him to make him feel better and more appreciated for the things he does, he began to soften. I picture him softening under the hand of God.- Shanna


30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 23


Let your speech always be gracious. -Colossians 6:4

Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works.– Titus 2:7

Does the 30-Day Encouragement Challenge seem like hard work? Or is it becoming a pleasant exercise in genuine Christ-likeness within your home? You are only scratching the surface of ways to encourage your mate.

Is your husband organized? Is he diligent? Is he persistent? These are all related to a pattern of personal disciplines that are worthy of your praise. Affirm him for one or more of these traits that you see in him.

Some men have not developed these qualities because they are naturally more spontaneous. You can praise his spontaneity! Perhaps God has called you alongside to help him with disciplines he has not yet developed-but this does not include nagging. You can keep him organized.

Whatever the need, you can be your husband’s cheerleader, encouraging him when he wants to give up.

“I went to my husband with my concerns without nagging or complaining, and I humbled myself (which was a challenge) and said ‘I need your help, because I can’t do it alone.’ That very second, my husband hugged me and grabbed the vacuum and got to work. Thank you so much for your program!” – Amy

Self Reflection

Are you living a lifestyle that would naturally encourage discipline in your husband?

30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 22


Set your minds on things that are above,                                                                                      not on things that are on earth- Colossians 3:2

Focus today on how you represent your husband indoor home, your church, and your community. In this challenge to encourage, ask yourself: If all my family and friends knew about my husband came from a filter of what I’ve said about him, what would they thing of my husband? Do you need to change the filter?

Do you talk positively about your husband to others… or do you complain and criticize? Your speech should reflect 1 Corinthians 13  love. Your words should be kind and should never “rejoice at wrongdoing” (v.6) Refrain from listing your husband’s faults to others. Satan likes to trick us in this area. Be wary of sharing barbed “prayer requests.”

Remember, “love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). Present your husband before others today in a strong, positive manner. Slip in a good word for your spouse. Resist the urge to correct or belittle him in front of others. Somer of what you say may come back to him-and you want your words to be sweet- building him up and never tearing him down.

Don’t forget, you are always criticizing-or encouraging- before an audience. God hears your conversations when you are alone with your husband in your own home. May your speech be always seasoned with grace.

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30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 21

30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 20

30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 21


Promote a Proper Perspective

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness,                                                         and all these things will be added to you. -Matthew 6:33

If we are living in light of eternity, everything we think, do, or say is seen from an eternal perspective. We will someday give an account for our failure to speak words of love and encouragement. Determine today that your words will be sweet and helpful.

Does your husband have a an eternal perspective that allows him to reject materialism and temporal values? Express your gratefulness for his value system, and praise him for putting eternal things before riches and other things of this world.

If this is a problem area for him, consider how you might alter your own value system and live for eternity in front of him, encouraging him to do the same. Only two things will go into eternity… the Word of God and people. Be sure that you are focusing on the right things today.

“I just completed the 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge. I can see that my kindness ad encouragement to my husband has softened his heart. The other day, he told me that we need to start praying together for a particular neighbor. This was encouraging to me that he saw his leadership in the home.” – Julia 


30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 20


Be an Agent of Forgiveness

Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another,                                                    as God in Christ forgave you. –Ephesians 4:32

It’s time for some heart examination. As you continue in this 30-day challenge, have you found any roots of bitterness that are contaminating your relationship with your husband? Do you understand that as long as you are unwilling to forgive your husband-by God’s grace and His power-you will not be able to encourage him? Your own resentment will keep getting in the way. Now is the time to deal with any unforgiving attitudes. Forgive him, even as God has forgiven you.

Is your husband a forgiving man? Does he keep short accounts of your problems? Express your thankfulness for such a man.

Does your husband-rightly or wrongly- harbor grudges against you? Again, are these things you need to change, or do you need to ask for his forgiveness for an offense? Help your husband be more forgiving by quickly forgiving him for his mistakes.

“You’re never more like Jesus, you’re never more like God, than when you are forging and pursuing reconciliation.” -Nancy Leigh DeMoss

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30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 19

30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 18

30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 19


Admire His Body

Read a wife’s description of her beloved in Song of Solomon 5:10-16

Criticism leaves scars, but encouragement can bring healing. Remember that today as you focus on your 30-day encouragement challenge.

Almost nothing is as devastating to a man as the belief that his wife finds him repulsive. Sadly, many women unwisely criticize their husband’s bodies.

Have you ever considered how wonderfully God designed men and women? No matter how a man looks-by the standards of the world-a loving God designed them all, and they are all beautiful in His sight. Encourage your husband today by praising his uniqueness.

As you look over your husband’s body, from the tip of his toes to his bald or bush head, thank God that your husband is “wonderfully man,” then admire your husband verbally. (Strong arms? Hairy chest? Firm hands? Big feet? Rugged chin? Wide shoulders? Compassionate eyes? Broad smile?)

My beloved is radiant and ruddy, distinguished                                                                    among ten thousand. –Song of Solomon 5:10

Journaling Thought

Describe the physical characteristics you admire in your husband. Be sure to tell him today what those things are.


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30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 18

30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 17

30 Day Encouragement Challenge: Day 18


Promote Playfulness

You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy… Blessed are the people whose God is the Lord! –Psalm 16:11; 144:15

It’s hard to criticize others when we are enjoying their company. Instead of speaking negatively to your husband today, enjoy him! Encourage him! As you experience fullness of joy with God, share some of that joy with your husband.

A joyful heart is good medicine. -Proverbs 17:22

Does your husband have a playful side? A great sense of humor? Is there a “little boy” who wants to escape from time to time, reflecting the joy in his heart?

This is a wonderful part of who he is and a great strength. Let him know that you appreciate his joyfulness and his playful spirit. Find opportunities to join him in positive playtime.

If your husband can sometimes be overly serious, coax him out occasionally for some playtimes. It will help him relieve stress and relax.

I am not naturally a gift giver; however, gift giving is one of my husband’s first love languages. On the way home… I felt like the Lord gave me a thought to go in and get my husband his favorite drink. Immediately, I was delighted by the idea of surprising him with this small gift.” -Kristy

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